“There is a brokenness out of which comes the unbroken, a shatteredness out of which blooms the unshatterable. There is a sorrow beyond all grief which leads to joy and a fragility out of whose depths emerges strength.”

~ Rashani Réa


The Art of Grief Tending

As we collectively and individually face the increasing realms of loss, crisis, war, separation on our inter-connected planet, how on earth are we supposed to stay sane & human?

Stay soft in the heart?

Stay flexible in the mind?

Stay vigilant in the soul?

Stay resourced in the body?

The art of Grief Tending is calling us back to wholeness, community, re-connecting & mending what has been lost and broken.

Grieving is a form of Protest & an act of Love

Our grief and our love are so deeply intertwined, and yet, in most modern cultural landscapes, we are left carrying these dynamic forces in isolation & solitude: especially with the increase of polarity, separation, & lack of communal spaces to feel, attune, release, together.

And yet, (most likely) BECAUSE of the poly-crisis’ surrounding us, there is a beckoning call of more and more humans understanding the vacum and the need to create these spaces, these cultures-of-care:  perhpas what we are really longing for is not the newest gadget, but to really feel the deep release of long-held grief, to feel the smell of the earth after rain, to taste the song of forgiveness, to dance like it’s the end of the world (because, hey, maybe it is :))



Soul Nourishment for the entire Web of Life

These times are like Olympic-training for the human spirit, and there is a DEEP call for more authentic forms of communal grief-tending and collective-healing…we were not meant to carry this alone, and yet, in modern-western life, functioning over feeling is the dominant value…and yet, the cracks are calling us…and we need the witnessing of others (in human and non-human form) to really move the many layers & textures of grief we are holding.

We are entering territories of collective/individual-crisis that are clearly breaking us: and whether these intense currents break us OPEN or break us DOWN is the prayer we must tend to, for ourselves and for others.

Our communal grief is a medicine that is calling us deeper into the cracks: to feel, to heal, to transform.

“Where there is sorrow, there is holy ground.”

— Oscar Wilde


My Path with Grief Tending


In all honesty, I do not feel that one can consciously say one choose the path of Grief Tending:  rather I feel I’ve been “broken open” into working with grief, especially the past few years.  I do believe the global-Pandemic has been very influential in my own personal path, but has also created a crack in our collective-consciousness–revealing the growing cracks in our collective-field–revealing all that is no longer sustaining of 

and it’s becoming more and more the axis of my work & calling: in weaving the spectrum between grief and celebration…and currently I’m marinating on how to offer this medicine and these spaces…I truly bow to all of the souls that are feeling called to gather our broken open human hearts together right now: it might just be the most important work right now in maintaining both our sanity and our humanity.


Photo Credit: Maximiliane Wittek

Finally on my way to yes
I bump into
all the places
where I said no
to my life
all the untended wounds
the red and purple scars
those hieroglyphs of pain
carved into my skin, my bones,
those coded messages
that send me down
the wrong street
again and again
where I find them
the old wounds
the old misdirections
and I lift them
one by one
close to my heart
and I say holy,

By Pesha Gertler



“If grief can be a doorway to love, then let us all weep for the world we are breaking apart so we can love it back to wholeness again.”

Robin Wall Kimmerer, “Braiding Sweetgrass”

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